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Back to Work – Yuck

The worse part of a snow day – going back to school/work. It’s even more difficult when you hate your job and you dislike the person you work for.

My husband told me that I could quit. We would have to tighten our belts a little, but we would get by. Why don’t I quit? I mean, I’m absolutely miserable. You’d think it would be easy to say “See ya” and flash them my middle finger on the way out. But it’s not. Why? Here is what the little voices in my head are telling me:

“Remember when your husband was rushed to ER and they ended up having to do open heart surgery? Remember that? Remember him not being able to work for a long time, then, when finally getting back into the swing of things he was hired at about 1/3 of the salary he used to make? Yeah-and you, miss “stay at home mom”, yeah, what kind of credibility did YOU have when you had to go back to work? That’s right, a 50% salary cut because you hadn’t been in the “work force” for a year.” Why do people think staying at home and raising a family is not work?

and…..

“You have teenagers you dumb fool. Teenagers that will be starting college next year. And another the year after! What the Fluck are you thinking? Oh, that’s right-you’re not thinking.”

and…..

“You’ll have to ASK your hubs for money for ANYTHING you want to do! You are too controlling to live like that!”

See? See what I’m dealing with? All very good arguments. I know, a normal person would find a job before quitting. Here’s the problem. I am very busy at work. I don’t have time to search ads, submit resumes, go on interviews. That’s all very time consuming. I’d like to quit first and take time to find what I want. Unfortunately, if you attempt to find a job when you are not working, you become less desirable and usually will be offered a position at a reduced salary compared to what you would have been offered if currently employed. Employers think the unemployed interviewee is desperate. If you go in and say “this is my salary range”, then you are considered “cocky” and that would be the reason why you are not currently employed.

Do ya feel my pain?

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  1. * aka_Meritt says:

    You know I feel your pain. What can I possibly say?

    I actually LOVE my job and I am quitting… I just have to believe that something better is out there. But I admit the ‘leap’ is HARD to make.

    I’m actually sitting here at work right now with a sick feeling in my stomach because the President just called me to say “What banking software do we use? I’m writing the job ad”

    gulp.

    Somehow that makes it more real than ever before.

    ** I think you should start looking for another position now, and then put in your resignation. **

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  2. * Shell says:

    Layoff Queen here…everytime I’ve looked for a job after being laid off I’ve always made better. And even from jobs I’ve left or gotten fired from (yeah…my ass has been fired). It’s how you spin it in the interview.

    Post on Monster at night, tell your friends you’re looking and this is what you do, etc etc. You never know.

    Come drinking Sat and we’ll talk.

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  3. * Kami says:

    I miss my steady paycheck A LOT of the time. Luckily, Jon is pretty cool about what I spend. He doesn’t want me to kick his ass. 😉

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  4. * Dixie says:

    I hear ya’! I don’t have to work, but I do, because I always have. I tried the stay ot home mom thing and after three months I was ready to jump off a tall building.

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  5. * Tammy says:

    How about looking for another job? One that you would love.

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  6. * The Kept Woman says:

    50% pay-cut for only being out one year?

    God, employers will be making me pay them when I go back to work!!

    Seriously…I like Tammy’s idea…keep the credibility and cash but find somewhere where you’d be happy. Thought about firms in the city? I used to work at Thompson Knight and from a support staff point of view they were a great firm to work for.

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  7. * Carrie says:

    Would you just send me your resume? I mean, granted people here get on my nerves at time, but boss is pretty much entertaining most of the time – and he travels a lot. Besides, we are pretty easy-going and flexible about schedules and such, take the IR for example…. 🙂

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  8. * ktlee says:

    What about temping for a while until you find the job you love? Life’s WAY to short to work at a job you hate. I did it, quit (one of the scariest things I have ever done), didn’t work for a while. Then finally got some work temping. Which led me to my current employers, whom I love. It’s an idea.

    Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  9. * Teena says:

    It’s nice to have the option. When Gord and I got married five years ago, he promised to make me a housewife. Yay! I neglected ask when that was going to happen cuz I’m still waiting 🙂

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago
  10. * Beth says:

    I’d quit, and use your time to really look for something different. If you can manage without your income why put yourself through hell daily?

    Plus I never “ask” Dh for money. Actually he turns his paycheck over to me, and needs to ask ME for money lol. Since I’m home and do the shopping and paying of bills I’m in control!!!!

    | Reply Posted 10 years, 6 months ago


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