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Working My Way Out of a Job!

I never looked at it from this perspective but this is exactly what we are doing. No one warned me that this would be harder than parenting, but it is. Since the progression of G2’s teen years, his dad and I started pulling back, and now that he is 17 and driving, we have to pull back even more.

The mother in me wants to tell him how to do things, what to say, how to present himself, etc. One of the biggest complaints about the youth of today is that they are not self sufficient and still have mommy and daddy picking up the pieces. Not to mention the rise of post college graduates living with their parents (4 million between the ages of 25-34).

Yesterday I watched the Today Show, I cringed when they featured a story on letting go of your adult children. They talked about the parents calling their children at least three times a day when they are in college; asking for passwords so that they can apply for jobs in their children’s behalf. Even calling them to wake them up to go to class WHEN THEY ARE IN COLLEGE!

I have always felt that our job as parents was to love, protect and raise a productive and happy member of society. Now it is time to work my way out of a job and let him fly. I feel very strongly about this as some of you may recall the post I wrote about helicopter moms last year. After all, in seven very short months, he will be eligible to vote for the President of our Nation and he will be eligible to die for his Country. So he has to be able to stand on his own two feet and make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Of course as far as this concerns our son, the verdict is still out. In some areas I see him is very mature for his young years. In other areas I see him lacking maturity. Some tell me it is because he is a boy and boys are very different from girls. At this point, did we do our job effectively? Only time will tell.


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  1. * Candy says:

    I agree, I guess… mine are 3 and 5 and the thought of them leaving me makes me want to chain them in their rooms right now… well, sometimes… 😉

    But yeah, I think kids are too pampered in some respects… a certain family member comes to mind… *laugh*

    | Reply Posted 11 years, 9 months ago
  2. * Karen says:

    Good post,SuZan. I am trying my best to allow my son to stand and make his own decisions. Sometimes it works out well, sometimes not but he learns. With an only child I have it all invested in one! I try to remember the greatest gift is wings…

    | Reply Posted 11 years, 9 months ago
  3. * aka_Meritt - www.coffeetalking.blogspot.com says:

    You are 1 1/2 years ahead of me on this one… but I hear ya.

    I’m not having too hard of a time letting go with my oldest though. Perhaps because she is a girl, she is incredibly mature, bright and self sufficient. She has a great head on her shoulders and common sense.

    However: I’ve been thinking ‘your’ thoughts about my son. He’s almost 14 and all ‘boy’. Thank goodness I have 4 more years before he’s 18 because he’ll need every single second of it before he’s ready to jump out of the nest. LOL. I’m going to try HARD to let him fall on his face a few times and hopefully he’ll learn from it.

    … oooo it’s so hard for a Mom to let them fall though, isn’t it? LOL.

    | Reply Posted 11 years, 9 months ago
  4. * Tammy says:

    Wait. I CAN’T call my children 3 x a day when the are adults?

    I joke. Only because I’m terrified of them growing up.

    | Reply Posted 11 years, 9 months ago
  5. * Lucky Lum says:

    Oh. no.
    Why didn’t you people tell me these things BEFORE I had kids?

    | Reply Posted 11 years, 9 months ago
  6. * Football Widow says:

    I can’t imagine letting go. But I don’t want to be one of those crazy parents either. It truly is a hard job.

    | Reply Posted 11 years, 9 months ago

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